When parenting gets stressful

Parenting and Nutrition

By Dr Vandana Mathur*

When Rita entered the house after a harrowing day at work, she was feeling low and unhappy as things had become very stressful at work. It was late on a Friday evening and she was looking forward to a low-key weekend where she could catch up on some pending household chores and also rest a bit. Her husband Raghav kept extremely busy and his work involved loads of travel. That made things even more difficult if not stressful for her.

“Mumma !! finally, you are home! I was trying to call you but you wouldn’t pick up my call!” chirped her bundle of happiness- Pari. “You know what Mumma, all my friends from the building are going for a Beach Cleaning Drive tomorrow early morning. I want us to go too. We will go- right Mumma?” Those angelic sparkling eyes looked at Rita with hope as she hugged her and gave her sloppy kisses. Rita was in a dilemma, here she was hoping for some rest and downtime, but she didn’t want to disappoint her little one. “Let me think about it sweetie”, is all she said before rushing to wash and change.

While trying to juggle all responsibilities, Rita had not focused on herself for long. She was struggling with being overweight which resulted in lower self-esteem, was having mood swings, didn’t feel like socializing, and was almost always low on energy- the list was endless! 

Rita connected with me for a consultation. I realized that she had put her own well-being on the back burner ever since she became a parent. “But doc, why do you lay so much stress on parents to focus on their own health and wellbeing?” she asked me in one of our sessions. 

Eating healthy and exercising regularly has its own benefits which include weight management, improved cardiovascular health, better sleep, reduced stress and anxiety and higher energy levels. Being fit and healthy helps parents to keep up with the demands of parenting.

Parenting can get stressful! Eating sensibly and exercising are great ways to manage stress and improve mental health. Engaging in regular physical activity will make parents more energized, focused and calm, which in turn affects their relationship with their children. Research has shown that regular exercise can reduce the risk of chronic diseases and increase longevity too.

The last one is my favourite – role modelling. Children mimic parents – this is literally the one magic wand that all parents have! If parents prioritize healthy eating and fitness, it sets a positive example for the children and encourages them to adopt healthy habits as well.

So, what happened to Rita? In just a few months, she has transformed not only her relationship with herself but also with all around her. You can do it too. Just- start….and, don’t forget to use your magic wand!

*PhD (Nutrition), Consulting Nutritionist and Certified Parenting Coach